Thanksgiving and update.

[draconisregena]

They don't celebrate thanksgiving here. It's impossible to get turkey (at least the kind of turkey I want) for anything but christmas it seems. Tonight we go over to his mothers house for dinner with the family, so that is good at least.

But I have my little family and I suppose that is enough. All you really ever need is someone to love you. Even if you only ever have 1. I know that more than one person loves me, even if most of them don't ever say it or show it.

On the update side of things: Fighting with boy every morning is wearing on my nerves. When he woke up this morning with a very angry "wat nu?!" (what now?!) I almost screamed at him. Instead, I said nothing, went downstairs and had a bananna to not kill him. I had to drag him physically out of bed yesterday and tell him he could go to school in his underwear if he didn't get dressed. Step mommy is tired. Very tired indeed. She is VERY much looking forward to Christmas break- with no fighting from boy. Only fighting with husband. Kidding. But at least if and when we fight it's adult fighting and about things that can be resolved. How do you get into an 8 year old mind and make it Think? It feels a lot like he doesn't know how.

Comments

[liadan-m.livejournal.com]

I was just doing this for 2 years. One thing you can try is having a family talk with Dad there about it is not fair to you to be made to feel like you are a horrible person first thing. It didn't stop the fighting about bed, but it did stop the screaming about how I was an evil and horrible person.

And teaching about consequences takes time. Usually about 20 years or so. ;) Have you sat down with Dad and agreed on ground rules? If not, do that, and then sit down with boy and do the same. If he knows that doing x will equal y (fighting bed='icky' or no breakfast, earlier bed time, etc.), then when he breaks the rules, he's been forewarned.

[aztecknight.livejournal.com]

That 20 years is just about right.

But in the meantime I will second these things. I am sure the Richard is backing you the vast majority of the time, but one key for an 8 (or 13) year old is that they see it. He has to know that this is Dad's idea too.

* hug *

And you know I love you.

[britishamerican.livejournal.com]

Hope this helps.

Try www.cafemom.com

:)